The Two Great Themes of Love and Fear

All things are connected: you, me, the seat you are sitting in, the sky outside, the screen or page you are looking at right now, and even the thoughts of the person next to you are all connected to each other. All things are connected because at their deepest root, all things are Source. There are no exceptions. “Source,” or “God,” is just a word– but truly it is beyond any name and definition, because all form itself exists within it. Source is conscious and alive, the great and loving I Am- and you and I are part of that, precious individuations of The One. We are forever a part of its Light, even as we exercise our individuation through experiences of separation. And there are few places in Creation where separation can be more starkly experienced than right here on Earth.

The world we live in is a real experience of the illusion of separation. We are not actually separate. But we have adopted the illusion of separation for purposes that are often beyond our human understanding. We have committed to all the definition that goes along with the human condition: we have committed to being biological, temporally constrained (bound to time), and subject to the laws of physics and discreet location (distance). None of those things are fundamental. Distance is not fundamental, linear time is not fundamental, biology is not fundamental. What is fundamental is our awareness, our spirit, our living consciousness itself! Because consciousness is a part of every experience everywhere, and because we are consciousness, we are connected to every single other thing in all of Creation!

But the multiverse of form is not “perfect.” We as spirits, who seek to engage in the integration of experience and to participate in all that is occurring, are not necessarily “optimized” for any given context or set of constraints. In all the many varied experiences we find ourselves, no matter the reality system or lifetime, there is one “primary action” that remains constant: our intent. We always have the power to choose things, in accordance with the “rules” and context of whatever reality we are participating in. The decisions available to us may change drastically depending on a myriad of factors, but always the action of consciousness itself to choose something remains.

When intent operates in a way that is supportive of the whole, and is in alignment with the unity that exists at the foundation of all things, we call that love. When intent operates in a way that is divisive, or promotes the illusion of separation by prioritizing the self over others, we call that fear. Every intent exercised in our world is either a movement towards a more integrated, expansive, and mutually supporting state of manifestation (one that is more in alignment with our native fundamental unity); or away from it.

This is why love and fear are the two great themes in spirituality. Love reflects the power and perfect unity of our true nature; fear reflects the incomplete, non-fundamental, and ultimately powerless illusion of separation. Loving intent supports the other, and is unity-promoting; fearful intent supports the illusory separate self, and is separation-promoting. Since separation is not fundamental, and not reflective of what we truly are, we suffer when we act from fear. Our experience on Earth currently includes a great churning cacophony of suffering because as a whole, most of us exercise fearful intent, rather than loving intent, every day.

Exercising loving intent is about honestly choosing what is best for the being next to you, and best for the world. Exercising loving intent is about, among a great many other things: being willing to act on the behalf of another even when it is difficult, being willing to actually feel the pain of being wrong, being willing to feel the humility of being imperfect, and being willing to face the fear of not knowing all the answers, or even not having much physical power at all. The true playing field for this great endeavor is not primarily out in the objects of the world- it is within yourself! The true playing field for this great endeavor is in your heart and mind. Some of the most important work you will ever do will be in the quiet moments of your heart. That is where the truly meaningful actions of Creation are occurring- and you are an incredibly important part of that process!

You have the power to choose! Your heart and spirit will always speak to you: if you are willing to relinquish the stories of the ego, you will always be guided as to where love is leading. You can be brave, for you are a powerful part of the Source of All Things. What will you choose then in this powerful moment, now?

9 thoughts on “The Two Great Themes of Love and Fear

  • Accepting the constraints I live within and moving forward with them. A struggle I have is accepting the limitations of this life’s realm… feeling like I’m locked in some deterministic set, like I’m in control of something higher and more powerful. Perhaps I am to some extent but I’m trying to appreciate that possibility rather than be afraid of it.

    “We always have the power to choose things, in accordance with the “rules” and context of whatever reality we are participating in.” This means I need to accept a set of rules and context… Love your limitations.

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  • After my awakening, my journey through the crucible, I have been rebuilding my particular opportunity to be human. In every single moment. Every one is precious, very important. In ways that I don’t know and don’t need to know. After an encounter with Unconditional Love, everything is brand new.


  • I find this confusing.

    I relate to the idea that love is the answer; however, other- driven behaviors translated into experiencing being treated like an object- something with a function- rather than a being in my own right. Starting with being parentified in my early years, I got used to care of others before considering my own needs; the result of which, is I don’t know how to care of myself. I was not allowed to. The part that would react in defense (now I know the term to be boundary) was shut down via punishment/pain, and later translated in freezing when someone would treat my body poorly (by which I mean not seeing the being behind and use as if one was an object in spite of objections).

    I observed the same in terms of regulating others’ emotions, being contacted solely for such purpose and having a “poor” experience of the other when not being available or willing to do so in instances where they do so by “putting own down” to feel better. I used to think being by someone’s who’s experiencing challenges was loving and now learning that it is not necessarily the case.

    I’ve explored several versions of being loving and the generalisation of being merely other-focused does not add up to me. There seems to be a balance to be had that, at this stage of my experience, I am aiming for.

    Caring about others exclusive of “self” does not resonate.

    In number of instances, it enables certain dynamics that do not allow the parties involved to reflect back on how they’re acting (often merely reproducing learned behaviors), bringing awareness to such patterns and “wasting” a potential opportunity for growth.

    Is there something I am missing?


    • The Ocean is important- all of it, of which you are a precious part. Loving the other is loving yourself because they are a part of you; and loving yourself is also loving that which is important, because you are also Source. Does that help?

      More specifically about the word usage: When I say “love is always about the other,” I am speaking to the ego; we could perhaps more accurately say “love is always about yourself,” though the ego tends to very quickly get a hold of that, so I tend to avoid stating it in that way. Caring about others should not be exclusive to caring for one’s self, certainly- but typically in our statement as soon as we distinctly prioritize caring for one’s self, we often immediately lose an important element of the true freedom that exists in a quality of intent that is focused on the other.

      I hope that helps!


      • My experience of Unconditional Love feels like being a mere channel for a teeny tiny bit of something vast beyond measure.


      • Thank you for your answer. Some people’s formative years learned not to care for themselves and that others were more important. Such people may replicate such patterns and end up entertaining abusive dynamics, at times, protecting the person who abuse them and carrying much pain. So, the other-focused message without qualification and inclusion of self, if embraced, may feed such patterns.

        I bought your book at the time and I am yet to read it, mostly because of this post. I was disappointed as the message is beautiful and I wanted to embrace it whole. I now appreciate that you’re presenting a point of view (a personal experience) rather than an objective truth despite the generalisation of your statements. I will read your book on this basis.


      • “Objective truth” cannot be named/ spoken, meanwhile I do try to present the higher context accurately (that is my intention) if at all possible within the great limitations of form and language, and even as all messages here must, of course, be communicated through the personality of the one speaking them.


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