Your experience is what it is for a reason. You cannot escape the nature of your experience- because what you are experiencing is always exactly what you should be experiencing in any given moment, based on the many natural laws that Source in Its incredibly loving wisdom has laid out. Thus the nature of your experience itself contains precious keys to your own development and your own life. This includes “negative” experience, which actually contains rich messages for us, if we are willing to listen.
In order to properly excavate the gold mine of your experience, you need to surrender to it. Surrender to your experience itself, not to your ideas about it. You have to be willing to actually feel whatever arises, to fully dwell in the present moment with whatever it is presently offering you, and to do so without any intellectual judgment whatsoever. The more you do that, the more you will be able to see the contents of your intellectual mind- and the resultant emotions- for what they are.